Make Sure You are in a Healthy FWB Relationship

I have a friend who likes freedom and does not like being bound. And he's not ready for a serious date yet. But for an adult, having physical needs is always a normal thing. So he became a real causal encounter. He has a lot of FWBs around him. As far as sex is concerned, life is always good. But over time, he found that sometimes things get messy. He told me that FWB relationships, like interpersonal and formal dating relationships, have a lot of troubles and problems. That's true. At the beginning, a NSA relationship is always simple, but as time goes on, more and more emotions will be mixed in it. To prevent this NSA relationship from deteriorating, you can refer to the following suggestions.

1. You need to handle the emotional complexity of FWB relationships.

FWB seems to be a relationship that many people want to pursue, because it can bring a lot of benefits to people, such as regular sex life! And all the troubles in life without daily long-term relationships: sharing bills, becoming a sympathetic board for each other's feelings, cleaning the room. But not everyone is suitable for such a relationship. If you are jealous, have an anxious attachment style, or secretly desire a real relationship, FWB is not for you. FWB relationship is interdependent style relationship, so... You have to respect each other's decisions and lifestyle. This person is not your girlfriend or boyfriend, so you have no say in what they do and with whom. If one of you decides to change jobs and start dating seriously, you have to accept it because you haven't made a formal appointment yet.

2. Make sure that what you want is the same as what your friends want.

From the beginning, discuss openly what you two want from the FWB relationship, which can avoid a lot of trouble and misunderstanding between you. For example, in a normal NSA relationship, you or your friends shouldn't spend the night at each other's home, because it's easy to get emotional. But if your friend disagrees with you, you should tell him boldly. You just need to have sex between you, not any other connection. If he can convince himself, then you can go on. However, if he doesn't want to stick to such a relationship, an early separation can save you a lot of pain and trouble.

3. Don't have too much contact with your FWB.

If you want a stable dating relationship, then don't cross the border into a NSA relationship, because it will make you so painful that you despair. You know, there is never an emotional place in a NSA relationship. When you know it's not right for you, don't start hanging out with them. Of course, FWB may develop into a dating relationship, but don't expect it from the beginning. Sometimes, things won’t develop as you wish. Thus, keep yourself away from such a relationship if you think you are unable to handle it.